050 3 lessons from a reformed sleep-deprived executive | Bev Roberts

“There’s no time like now to stop, put yourself first and make a choice to live fabulously”

— Bev Roberts -

Celebrating the 50th episode of the Living Fabulously with Bev show! Thank you so much for lending me your ears for the past year and I trust that the expert insights and inspirational stories have enabled you to make a choice to make a change for the better.

It’s the first day of Sleeptember®, a month of events focused on supporting you to get better quality sleep so I decided to share 3 lessons to show that it is possible to make step changes and you don’t need to wait until you fall off a health cliff.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from your host Bev Roberts

I spoke about

• Resilience to stress being a complete myth

• Being forced to slow down

• Not letting go of your passion and dreams

• Was it the glass ceiling?

• The impact of not having an off switch

• Giving myself permission

• Making better choices about priorities

• Learning to relax and meditate

• The value of quality sleep

• Three ways to change your sleep story

Value Quotes

“Today my life cannot be compared to what it was for all the right reasons”

“Being forced to slow down is not an easy task for an A type personality”

“There’s no time like now to stop, put yourself first and make a choice to live fabulously”

“I woke up to the fact that my body is my vehicle for life and when it doesn’t work optimally nothing else is possible or enjoyable”

“The challenge when you are sleep-deprived is that you fall asleep from sheer exhaustion but you don’t sleep deeply or stay asleep”

“I was amazed that putting in place simple rituals could have such a profound effect as a wind down to sleep”

“I’ve made it my mission is to shift entrepreneurs and professionals from being tired but wired to refreshed and energised every day”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

Episode Links

Sign up for Sleeptember® and have the best sleep of your year http://bit.ly/sleeptember

“Set Boundaries like a Boss” with Patti Villalobos.  You can find out more at www.pattivillalobos.com

12 Simple Steps to Living Fabulously guide which is available as a FREE download at www.livingfabulously.com

Jon Kabat-Zinn’s 8 week Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course. You can find out more at http://www.openground.com.au/individuals/mindfulness-based-stress-reduction

Tom on Insight Timer at https://insighttimer.com/tomevans and at his website http://www.tomevans.co/

Sleeptember® Events

1) Sleep Beyond Belief will resolve the problem of feeling stressed out and instead we will be tapping out! Let's tap out your stress so you can Sleep Beyond Belief!

2) Stress Sleep and your Brain will solve the connection and missing links between your energy, your emotional health and your vitality. Get your natural high right here by connecting Stress Sleep and your Brain

3) Six Steps to Healthy Weight and Vitality will eliminate overwhelm and have you take back control. A simple plan to carve out time for yourself while still keeping up with your work and family commitments. Let go of the angst with 6 Steps to Healthy Weight and Vitality

038 Question everything | Laura Childs

“‘What if…’ changes our path. Opens a world of possibilities. And in that world we might find something fantastic, or fierce, about ourselves and our bodies and our personal power”

— Laura Childs -

When I first heard Laura’s story I was thrilled to know that she is both a healthy weight advocate and passionate about real food.  No shakes and pills!  How wonderful that her willingness to help others achieve what she and her daughter Veronica did, led to the creation of a business. It's a unique business in that it centres around the most amazing community support for people desiring to be a healthy weight.  Laura truly walks her talk and embodies the belief that when it comes to our health, we can always improve it if we learn to question everything.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Laura Childs

We spoke about 

• How the outcome of routine check-up created a catalyst for change

• The value of research in understanding how to navigate nutrition

• How leading by example attracted people who needed help

• Recognising that a passion to serve was in fact a business

• The need for awareness, compassion and amusement

• How learning to question everything will shift beliefs and more

• Putting ourselves first as a role model for others in our lives

• The unique approach of the Utmost Diet membership site

• Lessons from a 3 year old child

Value Quotes 

”I’m always amazed at what the human body is capable of – even when our health is degrading when we haven’t taken care of ourselves as well as we could have”

“And right up until my family doctor’s wake up call in 2013 I had no idea that my health and longevity was even in my control. I was certain that my fate would be determined more by genetics than by my actions”

“With a sombre expression my doctor informs me that I’ve gained enough weight to be classified as obese and that I’m showing signs of insulin resistance. And soon - she promises – she will be serving up a diagnosis and a life long prescriptions for type 2 Diabetes”

“And I’ll tell you – when we compared that ideal to the Government Guidelines – we had practically flipped it upside down”

“We realized that this is how we used to eat when we lived on the farm, how we all ate before the Industrial Era, before the availability of refined oils and processed flours and all these darn chemicals in our foods”

“We actually didn’t create a business – the business created us. And in a sense, it continues to create itself”

“The world is changed by your example, not by your opinion.” Paulo Coelho

“We got so busy, researching for people and learning more about how healthy fats heal our cells, how sugar damages our cells, and how all the toxins in our foods are causing so many illnesses”

“We realized we had to step up and do whatever we could to help others reach their healthy body weight”

“I’d never thought about it until I embarked on my own journey – but I’ve seen it in others since. How we all go through a long series of mindset shifts – and attitudes – as we walk that path back to wellness”

“The greatest lesson I’ve learned is that when it comes to your health, it can always be improved”

“I can’t even begin to tell you how much your signature sleep course has helped me – the tools, knowledge, awareness – within. And feeling that underlying self-compassion built into everything you do. A dose of acceptance and forgiveness plus the inspiration to keep moving forward on the quest.”

“I learned to “question everything” – my doctor’s diagnosis, my beliefs, and my perceived potential”

“We don’t set great examples for our children or anyone else if we’re so busy looking after every one that we’re exhausted, run down, and potentially growing bitter”

“That’s another area where you’ve really helped me in awareness – your sleep journal – five minutes per day shows me how I’m treating myself, what I might like to improve on tomorrow, and the gifts of each day that I might have forgotten if I had simply crawled into bed, exhausted”

If you got value from this episode if you have not yet done so please Subscribe, Rate and Review on iTunes or Stitcher. You can follow the instructions here.  If you know someone else that would get value from this episode as well please share it with them.

Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

Episode Links 

You can find Laura Childs at:

Website:  http://utmostdiet.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/utmostdiet

My online course Sleeping Fabulously is a four week course where I take troubled sleepers through the process of understanding their sleep habits, to creating new habits that let them sleep soundly through the night.

You know how passionate I am about this subject and you know that it’s time for me to take my sleep message to more people.

Can I ask you to do something?

Would you be willing to be my Champion and champion the cause of better health and sleep with me?

What if, together, we could change ONE person’s life for the better? What if we could start more conversations about the topic of well-rested living? What if we could be...well, be rebels together?

Are you in?

I hope so!

Contact me if you need ideas or head to http://bit.ly/sleepfabulously to check out all the details and share the link thoughtfully with your friends and on social media

Thanks in advance for being a fabulous change maker

029 Focus on having a great life | Clarissa Rayward

“Put simply the pace of life coupled with a number of other things at the moment is creating a lot of havoc for a lot of people. It’s something we really need to start addressing, thinking about and making shifts in how we live so that we can be well and live as long as we can”

— Clarissa Rayward -

When I heard Clarissa’s key note speech at the We are Podcast conference recently I was moved by the statistic that 1 in 3 lawyers will struggle with depression, anxiety or some form of a mental health challenge at some stage in their career.  As Clarissa rightly says we consult a lawyer at our most difficult and stressful times in our lives so professionally lawyers are dealing with conflict and negative situations daily.

Clarissa’s journey as the “happy family lawyer” began in 2013 when she started writing a blog which has become a vehicle to not only create a shift in herself but to also to make a difference in her profession.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Clarissa  

We spoke about 

• Shifting focus to be a happy family lawyer

• Some of the drivers for the rates of depression in legal professionals

• Jerome Doraisamy’s experience as a law student and his quest to help others

• Creating a supportive environment in the work place

• Key elements to disengage from work

• The impact of the pace of life on our wellbeing

• What success looks like for Clarissa and how this differs to traditional legal measures

• The value of self reflection

• Supportive practices for living a happy life

• Clarissa’s book “Happy lawyer, happy life”

• Enjoying the relationships in your life

Value Quotes 

“I try and work with family’s in a way that keeps them outside of traditional court processes and gives them the best chance to move forward after a divorce with some semblance of a relationship intact”

“To open up a conversation around how we can live better as lawyers, manage the stresses that come with being a professional in this space and ideally try and reduce the statistic”

“We hear a lot of the phrase in our industry of ‘compassion fatigue’, where dealing with these difficult moments and tragedies all the time starts to rub off on our mental health as well and makes it more difficult for us to cope”

“One of the things that I think is really important to our mental health, wellbeing, just our capacity to live life well is rest”

“Rest comes in a number of different ways. Rest is nightly sleeping and many of us don’t get enough sleep on a day to day basis but rest is also the capacity to disconnect from your job”

“That seems to be another one of those big precursors to depression and anxiety as I just can’t disconnect and enable my mind the time it needs to heal itself”

“Put simply the pace of life coupled with a number of other things at the moment is creating a lot of havoc for a lot of people. It’s something we really need to start addressing thinking about, and making shifts in how we live so that we can be well and live as long as we can”

“We can get very caught up in other people’s success stories and their own markers of success rather than pausing and thinking what does it mean for me, what is important to me, what do I want to look back on at the end of my life…”

“Trying to have a positive mindset and seeing the world from a place of opportunity”

“I think you can be a great lawyer but it’s probably more important to focus on having a great life”

“Taking the time to allow yourself to enjoy the people around you, your family, your good friends, whoever it is. Make sure you make time for that stuff.”

If you got value from this episode if you have not yet done so please Subscribe, Rate and Review on iTunes or Stitcher. You can follow the instructions here.  If you know someone else that would get value from this episode as well please share it with them.

Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links

You can find Clarissa at:

Website: www.thehappyfamilylawyer.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thehappyfamilylawyer/

Clarissa’s interview with Jerome Doraisamy on overcoming anxiety and depression: http://www.thehappyfamilylawyer.com/podcast/episode-6-overcoming-anxiety-depression-jerome-doraisamy/