034 Mindful living | Chantal Vanderhaeghen

“Live life by the moment and don’t wish it away”

— Chantal Vanderhaeghen -

Finding her way to showing up for herself has led Chantal to show other women that we can do something great in any part of our lives. Chantal has invested in learning many tools to support her to create a life she loves to live. We talk about the more practical aspects and benefits of living mindfully.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Chantal

We spoke about 

• Showing up for herself after hiding behind a façade

• What mindful living is and it’s benefits

• What being present means to Chantal

• What gets in the way of mindful living

• Connecting back to your home

• Making mindful living practical

• Living a full rich life

• The power of creating a sacred space

• Living life simply with love and kindness

Value Quotes 

“I didn’t have tools when I first started out and I didn’t know how to support myself. And these are the tools that have given me a lot in my life to create the life that I have today”

“I didn’t realise the menopause had all these emotional side-effects attached it”

“Mindful living for me is being conscious and aware of everything that I’m doing in my life no matter how small or how big”

“We do things mindlessly because it’s automatic”

“Enjoy life to it’s absolute fullest. Enjoy being fearless and adventurous.  Enjoy being courageous. Never ever give up no matter what happens in your life. You are unique you are enough, you’re more than enough”

“Live life by the moment and don’t wish it away”

“Live life to the fullest the way you want to live but not how others think you should”

“Either you go to your space or you stay in your bed with your space or you go and sit in your garden. And that is where you get those beautiful moments of insights”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

Episode Links 

You can find Chantal Vanderhaeghan at:

Website: www.unfoldyourfreedom.com.au

Facebook: www.facebook.com/unfoldyourfreedom

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033 Exercise deliberate choice | Debbi Carberry

“The story we tell women I think is really sad right now which is ‘you can have everything’. I think that’s cruel… because with that comes a massive burden”

— Debbi Carberry -

A roller coaster of a story where Debbi learned so many lessons from her son who defied the medical prognosis given at a routine 18 week pregnancy scan.  I love Debbi’s philosophy that life gives you what you need and even though it can be a rough road, for me it is a metaphor of tumbling stones to get to the diamond.  Debbi shares amazing insights into human connection and our ability to change our hard wiring laid down in early childhood.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Debbi

We spoke about 

• A life changing decision

• Dealing with an unsolvable challenge

• Making a choice to let go of fear

• Learning that we are not in control

• The value of an optimistic outlook

• Being the queen of self-care or being selfish?

• The myth of having it all and being all

• The joy of being a fearless 20 year old

• Connection and the neuroplasticity of the brain

• Exercising deliberate choice

• Retraining your brain around sleep

Value Quotes 

“I have a philosophy that life gives you what you need”

“I would attack my life with fervour. It would be just like pumping through things and he kind of brought me to my knees”

“It was a rollercoaster ride where I would just get so incredibly fearful. So I lived in fear for about 6 – 8 years thinking is today the day”

“You need to stop it. You made a decision to let him live, you chose that. You need to let him live…”

“It wasn’t an option to fall in a heap on the floor. It just wasn’t an option. I was a single parent”

“I couldn’t be self-indulgent I needed to go ok what has to happen today and I think that helped me to get through that really difficult first 4 years”

“I’ve sacrificed a lot over the years and now it’s my turn and I’m loving it”

“If we do not take care of ourselves. If we are not happy then what are we giving to the people around us?”

“The story we tell women I think is really sad right now which is ‘you can have everything’. I think that’s cruel… because with that comes a massive burden”

“Looking back at my 20 year old self I grin from ear to ear because she was so fearless and so courageous and probably extraordinarily naïve”

“There’s this very interesting dance that goes on where we learn how to get our needs met and we knew that from mums and babies… this is a kind of blueprint for how we do all our relationships into adulthood”

“What we do repeatedly becomes an automated pattern of behaviour so what we need to do is when we struggle in this is not to go down that well-worn path”

“What’s the pay-off of not sleeping? That’s the first question I would ask”

“If your brain is just noisy what are you doing to download that data?”

“Don’t be complacent. Grab onto every opportunity that comes your way”

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Episode Links  

You can find Debbi Carberry at:

Website:  https://debbicarberry.com.au/

Face book: https://www.facebook.com/DebbiCarberryCounselling/

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030 Knowing how to resolve conflict is good for you | Glyn Conlon

“I like when I can say that I can move on now. I’ve dealt with it instead of distracting or going around the issue to revisit it later on”

— Glyn Conlon -

We all know what it feels like to have a prickly conversation or not feel heard. Glyn Conlyn is a highly experienced coach and trainer who specialises in non-violent or compassionate communication.  She promotes communicating simply and easily to allow others to more clearly hear our communication.  Glyn works to build understanding in relationships between friends, couples, families, in the workplace and with partners in business. 

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Glyn

We spoke about 

• The role of a certified non-violent communication trainer

• The impact of conflict and not being heard from the playground to the workplace

• Ideas on allowing for time to speak with truth

• What compassionate vs violent communication are

• The benefits of compassionate communication for self and others

• Why knowing how to resolve conflict is good for you

• Improving your overall ability to resolve disputes

• The 4 step process Glyn teaches for compassionate communication

• Your attention and intention in the moment

• Getting oneself out of a downward spiral in 5 key steps

• Glyn’s many tips for living fabulously

Value Quotes 

“I’m really careful about telling the truth with care which is different to out and out honesty.”

“What I’ve realised with compassionate communication is that you don’t need to have the quantity of time but you need to know how to access the quality of communication”

“You make a time to put effort into your relationship”

“Everyone is acting from trying to meet a need”

“Personal power, confidence and competence is within everyone’s reach”

“It allows to you understand yourself without judgement and to understand others without needing to agree”

“I like when I can say that I can move on now. I’ve dealt with it instead of distracting or going around the issue to revisit it later on”

“It’s amazing that it’s possible to correct what led to the problem in the first place and prevent future conflicts by doing this”

“If you have that intention to connect that’s really important”

“Surround yourself with others that listen deeply and are not morally judging your thoughts and actions”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links 

You can find Glyn Conlon at:

Website: www.keystoneskills.com.au

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nvciskey/