026 Act on unproductive anxiety | Kay Lindley

Living fabulously is to think about your approach to life and the links of wellbeing from a physical, mental, spiritual and emotional perspective. To put that all together and be fulfilled to have that authentic life
— Kay Lindley -

Hearing Kay say she lost who she was for a lot of her life made me realise how anxiety can rob you of your very essence. When someone is dealing with anxiety issues it can be easy to say ‘stop worrying’. However anxiety is a persistent pattern that the mind is locked into about something that may or may not happen in the future. Kay is a compassionate and insightful coach who is making a lasting difference to her clients and shares from a place of wisdom having conquered her own anxiety.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Kay

We spoke about 

  • Kay’s passion for helping people become unflappable

  • The impact of Kay suppressing a traumatic event and her way out of disabling anxiety

  • The spectrum of anxiety

  • Retaining the positive purpose of anxiety while letting go of unproductive anxiety

  • Challenges for someone dealing with anxiety

  • Side effects for people dealing with anxiety

  • Ways people can tackle their anxiety

  • The value of using truisms and belly breath to calm the body

  • Taking the best life lesson from a difficult situation or event

  • A focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do

Value Quotes 

“He really taught me to find the resources I needed to get back to normality”

“Know that when you are in an anxious state for long periods of time the front lobes of the brain are not working as they should”

“Like many people in that state, they don’t necessarily speak up and look for help, they just shrink their lives almost nothing”

“To get somewhere you have to spend more time in what you do want rather than what you don’t want”

“Anxiety is about something that hasn’t happened yet so it is a future kind of state”

“That anxious part of people wants to know about certainty but they don’t have certainty so they worry and get anxious”

“It could be something that happened in the past that is still there and morphs itself into other facets of their life for the future”

“It shows how creative the mind is for it to be able to think of all those things that could happen but might not”

“You might develop a fear of the feelings itself that it brings upon you, so an anxiety attack rather than the initial worry”

“You can help someone build a really strong metaphor that they could anchor and it might be a suit of armour or something that they want and can really embrace that can be triggered”

“There’s a lot of options to pretend in your head that you are doing it the way you would like to do it rather than the way you fear you might do it”

“If she can keep herself in the present then the anxiety doesn’t take hold”

“We know that the things that we think, our body posture, our breath are all interrelated and all of those things create the behaviour that comes out or the outcome”

“Wellbeing is an assistant to living longer and living a more fully functioning life”

“When you get them passed the anxiety you get more self-love, more creativity, more of their ability to give love and be who they really are”

“Living fabulously is to think about your approach to life and the links of wellbeing from a physical, mental, spiritual and emotional perspective. To put that all together and be fulfilled to have that authentic life”

“Have your best life. Focus on what you can do and not what you can’t do”

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Episode Links 

You can find Kay Lindley at:

Website: http://mindandbodyconsultancy.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mindandbodyconsultancy/

If you experiencing a personal crisis help is available by calling Lifeline Australia on 131114 or find resources at https://www.lifeline.org.au/

025 Transform your stress | Margie Braunstein

You need to be willing to live fabulously. Keep seeking and don’t accept less than living fabulously
— Margie Braunstein -

To open the series on mental health, I spoke with the highly experienced and beautifully pragmatic Margie Braunstein from Heartnicity™ about stress, it’s impact on our lives and health and simple things to do to turn negative stress around. I really love that we spoke science, biology and avoiding stretching ourselves to breaking point with there being no value to soldiering on.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Margie 

We spoke about 

  • Reducing the overwhelm people are living with

  • The role of personal development and purpose in Margie’s life

  • Background to the term stress and it’s definition

  • The difference between positive / good eustress and negative / bad distress

  • The role of good stress

  • The disservice of soldering on

  • Awareness of the signals you are reaching the tipping point

  • How stress affects people differently

  • The interrelated impact of stress on an overloaded nervous system

  • Building in our “insurance” against stress

  • The physical impact of stress on the body

  • The relationship between stress, poor sleep and how we function

  • The 3 step Heartnicity™ method of awareness, acceptance and action and it’s application

  • Living on a path of heart being constantly aware of moving toward or away from a stressful life

  • Simple practices for managing daily stress

  • The impact of ruminating thoughts and how to manage this more effectively

  • Indulging in loving self-care every day

Value Quotes 

“When people practice relaxation and meditation the nervous system is given a chance to relax a bit”

“There’s nothing better than discovering that there’s more to discover”

“It’s all about actually how to use your heart to have a better life and to manage your feelings better to manage your life better”

“Stress is generally seen as something to be avoided, stretched too far or stretched to breaking point”

“When you reach a limit, you need to replenish yourself”

“In our world we keep getting the message, keep going, soldier on and we go over the tipping point and head over the other side of the hill towards exhaustion and breakdown”

“We need to give our nervous system as much rest and support to come back to a relaxed state as often as we can throughout our day, our week, our life”

“Between our comfort zone and the tipping point there’s a sweet spot that’s very joyful and vitalising”

“Too much inflammation in the blood especially by cortisol is really seen as underpinning most disease processes”

“When you are stressed your amygdala becomes hyper vigilant to anything that could be dangerous even sleep”

“Becoming aware of how you think and feel. Once you become aware then you can make different choices. You can transform the way you see the world.”

“If you resist people or situations they don’t actually go away. But by resisting it you give more of your attention to it and it becomes this vicious cycle”

“Once you let go of resistance you kind of liberate yourself, body, mind and spirit”

“Moving away from the victim mentality and then you move into a kind of state of heightened personal power”

“When you act from a place of personal meaning it activates all the chemicals in our body that are really good for us”

“Consult your heart not just your mind when you make decisions”

“Feelings come and go, thoughts come and go, but I remain stable”

“You don’t want to believe everything you think. Most of it is delusional”

“There’s no thought without a feeling.  They are parallel, they always there together”

“Bad stress really underlies so many of the problems we have in our world and so I really want people to transform stress”

“Once you start to give your body a little bit more support, the nervous system more support to relax you actually find you start to have more energy for life and relationships”

“You need to be willing to live fabulously. Keep seeking and don’t accept less than living fabulously”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now!

Episode Links 

You can find Margie Braunstein at:

Website: www.heartnicity.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Heartnicity/

The path of heart exercise can be downloaded here

If you experiencing a personal crisis help is available by calling Lifeline Australia on 131114 or find resources at https://www.lifeline.org.au/

024 Find your bliss and magic | Emma and Carla Papas

Living fabulously is about following the joy and the fun, so take note of actually what brings you happiness each day and do more of that
— The Merrymaker sisters -

The fabulous Merrymaker sisters, Emma and Carla Papas are such a buzz without the caffeine!  What a joy to have an open and meaningful conversation about their own wellbeing journeys and what following their bliss has meant for them.  I love how infectious their zest for life is and how they are so aligned and walking their talk yet keeping it real by keeping things simple.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Emma and Carla, the Merrymaker sisters 

The Merrymaker sisters

We spoke about 

  • Why and how the Merrymaker sisters help others to live a healthier, happier more magic filled life
  • How body image issues and constant dieting can transform through focus on a real food lifestyle
  • How the magic in our lives comes from the little things
  • Building awareness of how you can make changes to your day and attitude
  • Creating a toolbox of things to draw on
  • Simple changes to improve your wellbeing
  • Factoring in your workplace and relationships as part of your wellbeing
  • Figuring out and following your bliss even in your everyday activities
  • Motivators that keep us inspired and growing
  • Prioritising your health when you’re really busy or travelling
  • Connecting your health actions to your values and scheduling them in your calendar
  • Benefits of adding more fun and gratitude to your day 

Value Quotes 

“Sharing that journey with other people allows them to connect and know that are not alone:

“Society puts on these little goals for you. Like you know find the boyfriend, find the husband and have the kids, buy the house…that sucks out the magic of everything”

“It’s like this whole “should be” life. This is what you’re supposed to be doing”

“The magic comes from the little things”

“We owe it to ourselves and we owe it to the world to just live and fulfil our lives 100%”

“If we don’t make a change, it just stays the same”

“Knowing I can choose to change that if I do feel negative”

“Create your own toolbox of things, mantras, actions that help pull you out of those situations”

“Gratitude is the biggest game changer in the whole wide world”

“When you feel something is a bit off, getting in tune with yourself and taking action. There is so much power in that”

“There might be a reason to why you are feeling a certain way and the only way you’re going to figure it out is if you go on this self-discovery which you might need to hire help to do that with”

“It’s about one small step after small step. You don’t have to do it all at once”

“If you’re surrounded by negative toxic people that will impact your health”

“Being surrounded by like-minded people can re-ignite passion and change so much”

“If you don’t have those positive relationships go and find them”

“Your day will get more magical if you add more fun, if you add more of that joy”

“Find what you really love doing and open yourself up to the possibility as well”

“Breaking down how you get to a goal and enjoying that process”

“It’s also being ok with not being motivated all the time”

“Scheduling health actions in my calendar helps to remember to do it and it keep’s me accountable”

“You never leave a workout thinking ‘man I wish I didn’t do that’”

“Living fabulously is about following the joy and the fun, so take note of actually what brings you happiness each day and do more of that”

“Gratitude is fabulous so note 3 things you are grateful for each and every single day”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

Episode Links 

You can find Emma and Carla, the Merrymaker sisters at:

Website: http://themerrymakersisters.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/themerrymakersisters

“We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us” - Joseph Campbell

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