047 Choose to create the life you want | Heidi Crockett

Having a good functioning brain, a clear mind and good relationships are important to have good mental health and to reduce stress
— Heidi Crockett -

Heidi's own grief and care giver stress propelled her into studying further and she now uses a lens of Relational Neuroscience in her work. Heidi describes this as connecting brain to brain and integration being the quality of that connection. She shares her passion of how these principles can help people to cope and thrive in their lives. We explore the nature of stress from a more scientific perspective in layman’s terms yet with incredible practical application to letting go of stress in our lives and choosing to create the life you want.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Heidi Crockett

We spoke about 

  • Turning her own grief and stress around

  • The super computer and stress response in the body

  • Becoming aware of our own stress triggers

  • Tools and resources to calm us down

  • Why it’s important to be in balance in the wellness triangle

  • How we can use choice to let go of stress

  • Heidi’s books on optimal mental health and relationship health

  • Creating the life you want

Value Quotes 

“Relational Neuroscience helped me understand the grief and stress that I was experiencing at that time and helped me overcome my grief”

“Emotional intelligence is really about learning how to recognise when you have that stress response, when you’re having a really strong emotion… and learning how to calm that down through self-regulation”

“If we can train ourselves to become aware of our bodies, we can catch these subtle signs and change before our stress response goes super out of control”

“Over time something that’s not really that stressful can build… it’s not that something happens one time it’s usually the 86th time that it happens that people just blow up and goes out of control”

“Meditation strengthens 8 of the 9 functions of the pre-frontal cortex”

“Cultivate securely attached relationships. That improves all 9 functions of the pre-frontal cortex”

“Having a good functioning brain, a clear mind and good relationships are important to have good mental health and to reduce stress”

“If you meditate every day it is amazing with the neuroplasticity and neurogenesis, it rewires your brain. It will change your experience of reality”  

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Episode Links 

You can find Heidi Crockett at:

Website:  http://www.greenlightheidi.com for mental health

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9 functions of the PreFrontal cortex

046 Learn to not be STUCK on the stumbles | Bryan Falchuk

Do we allow ourselves to be reactionary and just respond to the choices that others are making or are we taking a moment to pause, breathe and look at a situation and decide what is the wisest thing we can do
— Bryan Falchuk -

What a joy to speak to Bryan Falchuk; executive, coach and author of Do a Day, who has taken his hard-won philosophy of life and turned it into a way of being. We explore how the mind and the power of choice can be used for good in our desire to let go of stress. His vulnerable sharing of his turning point to find his true motivation will have you feeling it truly is worth the level of introspection to change your own life for good.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Bryan Falchuk

We spoke about 

  • Emotional distress as a child

  • Early indicators of the impacts of stress

  • Changing how we view stress

  • The choices that we make within ourselves

  • What it means to be intelligent rational beings

  • Moving from rumination to a solution

  • Learn not to be stuck on the stumbles

  • Tools for staying on path

  • Bryan’s book Do a Day

  • Finding your true motivation

  • Your purpose pointed in a direction

Value Quotes 

“It’s not all bad. I certainly gained a number of points of independence through that stress. I grew, I rely on myself really well. I’ve always been able to rely on myself to take care of myself”

“I do feel like if you really look at someone I think you can see that there’s hurt there and you can see that there is stress.  It’s ok to open up about that and be vulnerable”

“The way that we feel about things is our own choice”

“Do we take the stress as a signal to us that hang on maybe something is not right?”

“Exercise is a positive stress on your body, you grow from stressing your muscles”

“Most people don’t take the time to get really introspective and learn about themselves in a challenging way”

“Do we allow ourselves to be reactionary and just respond to the choices that others are making or are we taking a moment to pause, breathe and look at a situation and decide what is the wisest thing we can do”

“Instead of taking a tough situation and reframing it we stew on it and we let the negativity of it expand through rumination”

“Instead of beating yourself up for what’s already happened or living in fear of what is to come we focus on just the right now”

“Sometimes when we expose who we are it allows people to have a more human connection with us”

“You must know why you do things” 

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Episode Links 

You can find Bryan Falchuk at:

Website:  http://www.doadaybook.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/doadaybook 

Here is Bryan's free exercise to help find your Why: http://www.doadaybook.com/theexercise

Bryan's TEDx talk 

 

045 Be a power girl with vulnerability | Sarah Wade

You’ve got to learn quickly how to prioritise and to let things wait. Some days you can’t do it and you say no and it will wait until tomorrow
— Sarah Wade -

It seems almost impossible that two years ago Sarah Wade was unable to speak and walk yet she takes a risk in being a podcast guest with me which is so amazing. Her story is one of courage, fierceness and vulnerability that is filled with lessons for those of us who don’t take time to smell the roses in our lives.  Sarah shares how she is prioritising her self care, people who she values and doing things in a contented way.

Inspire yourself with these essential insights from Sarah Wade

We spoke about 

  • From the corporate world to a water view Cosy Home store

  • Sarah’s life-threatening medical emergency on 1 July 2015

  • The impact of work and emotional stress on Sarah’s wellbeing

  • A complete shift to Sarah’s world as she knew it

  • The journey of rehabilitation

  • Lessons along the way and doing things in a contented way

  • Creating a haven and sanctuary for customers at the Cosy Home store

  • Taking care of yourself is not selfish

Value Quotes 

“If I think about it every day now I wake up to my dream in action”

”I spent just over 35 years in the corporate world where they owned me, now I own me”

“It’s nice to wake up every morning and do something that I want to do”

“I looked around in the hospital and saw other women taking their first steps and I knew at that point that I had a job to do”

“When I look back on when I was in the corporate world, it was too hard to continue doing”

“I’m still finding the right mindset to feel confident every day to talk”

“Sometimes you’ve got to break the rules to get through things I guess”

“In order to support your mental health, your spiritual health, you have to eat well no denying that and it has to be every day”

“Every day you’ve got to be taking the time and ensuring you are important and what you want to achieve”

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Until next time fabulous podcast listener, I’m Bev and I invite you to live the fab life with me now! 

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Episode Links 

You can find Sarah Wade at:

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/cosyhomeettalongbeach/

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/cosyhomeettalongbeach/